tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13773213855337062362024-03-05T04:25:56.497-08:00Unguilty PleasuresThere are things that we, as women and mothers and wives, are supposed to give up lest we be percieved as somehow "less". We're supposed to grow up and leave those things that brought us such joy as teenagers and children behind. Well, I refuse. Although my tastes have evolved as I have evolved, I find that the things that made me happy in my youth still make me happy today, and I refuse to feel guilty about not putting such trappings aside.Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-88107654138590440182012-06-19T18:33:00.001-07:002012-06-19T18:39:01.675-07:00in the land of my kids<p> <font size="3">August has suddenly decided that it makes her "uncomfortable" for Paul to get up on her bed (they have a bunk bed, August has the top). This is a new development. And it makes her "uncomfortable" for Paul to play with any of "her" toys. They kinda have all the SAME toys, but somewhere along the way, they've been divided into Paul's toys and August's toys. There's a trading system in place, but I don't pretend to understand it. Anyway, all of this was revealed to Paul yesterday. Today, she wants to play with Paul's 3DS. Paul, who is usually pretty laid back, denies her request. August pouts, whines, gets mad, to no avail. I ask Paul why he won't let her, and he tells me about August's new-found aversion to letting him play with "her" stuff, or be on "her" bed, so HE doesn't particularly feel like sharing with HER. Fair enough.<br></font></p> <p><font size="3">August looks at Paul and says in this I'm-speaking-to-an-irrational-person voice "Paul. That was YESTERDAY. It's IN THE PAST. Why do you have to bring up stuff that ALREADY HAPPENED?" because, you know. IT WAS SO LONG AGO.<br></font></p> <p><font size="3">I told August that she was just gonna have to deal with it. She gave me A Look, sighed, and now I'm included in the too-irrational-for-words list.</font></p> <p><font size="3">Considering the company, that’s a good thing <img style="border-bottom-style: none; border-left-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-right-style: none" class="wlEmoticon wlEmoticon-smile" alt="Smile" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh70ZcMCK4v_VTemVrNxum_4eQ1G3W3VZUZ7MxYTKVVsDG5NqWiSe5T-ZguLvCXSWnWD8ncYTyyt6EDjYd8oUiHZHEA0p8xpf1C6Can4jG7rlOplRs-djSpsw4K9XyBDS9jaSuVsskfW74/?imgmax=800"></font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-42081399622869474592012-02-29T23:49:00.001-08:002012-02-29T23:51:32.895-08:00has anyone seen my motivation?<p><font size="3">Cause I can’t find it.</font></p> <p><font size="3">I’m kinda just rambling about these days, not really doing much of anything that needs doing. I mean, granted, me and Joe have had the sick, so that was a lot of me laying on the couch for a few days. </font></p> <p><font size="3">There are so many things I *want* to do. Like, crochet. I love to crochet. Yes, my inner old lady is showing. But seriously, crocheting is good times. It’s relaxing. I like making stuffs. Mostly, I like finishing stuffs. And yet, although I really want to crochet, day in and day out, I just… don’t.</font></p> <p><font size="3">I want to write more. Every day I think how this or that or other would make good blogger fodder but then I ignore the impulse and go play Castleville on Facebook instead. Cause, you know, THAT’S productive. Mindless cartoon kingdom vs. writing things down… hmmm... gee. SHOULD BE a no-brainer and yet, I continue to waste so. much. time. on Facebook. Don’t get me wrong, there are SOME productive things I do there, like connect with my various real-life friends that live around the country. However, that shouldn’t take the bulk of my free time, I just find myself spending too much time than I should be. </font></p> <p><font size="3">I want to read more. I love reading. It’s been my favorite thing to do for most of my life. And yet, I just… don’t read. I mean, I AM reading, just not like I usually do. Again, my time is being sucked into the computer. What is it about the freaking interwebs that’s SO addicting? </font></p> <p><font size="3">I need to exercise. I’m overweight! This isn’t healthy. This isn’t good for me. I want to lose some of this weight, and be healthier, and yet… blah blah blah. I don’t do it.</font></p> <p><font size="3">It’s like my motivation is on hiatus. Where did it go? Have you seen it?</font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-23428393001909057832012-01-05T10:56:00.001-08:002012-01-05T10:56:47.032-08:00yeah, hi, I shouldn’t be here<p><font size="3" face="Calibri">I should be cleaning my room. Cause it’s, like, a major disaster. It usually isn’t the tidiest of places because it’s full of stuff that doesn’t really have a home, but usually I can cram it all in the closet and call it good. However… since before Xmas… yeah. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">So I need to get in there and get it together. And clean my bathroom, too. I said to Self “Self, you need to clean this room. And this bathroom. Until then, NO SIMS FOR YOU!” and I meant it. I haven’t been on Sims once since I got up, and I reeeeeally want to play Sims.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">However, I did not say one thing about not getting on the internets. So technically I’m not disobeying my Self because I’m not Simming, just… doing really important things here. For scientific research. And it’s top secret, so you can understand why I don’t say exactly what it is I’m talking about. Not that I could tell you even if I knew, because I don’t usually know. What I’m talking about, I mean. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">Which sounds like a problem, but let me assure, it really isn’t. At least, not usually.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">Next week we start back up the homeschooling and I feel really mixed about it. I want to do it because these days of just being lazy are cool, but pointless. I want to get back into the routine. The kids NEED the routine. Things get weird with them if they don’t have routine. Well, wierder than usual. If that’s even possible.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">I need to find some type of outside stuff to do with these guys because it’s getting lonesome, just us doing it. The problem with that is that I’m SUCH a homebody and I hate putting myself outside of my comfort zone. But these guys need more than just me, and the socialization that comes from being with other kids. Although it’s not something I’m really super excited to go out and do, I look forward to it at the same time because it’s something new and different. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">Right now…? my little doggie is trying to get my attention. She wants me to give her pets. So, I will go and do that <img style="border-bottom-style: none; border-left-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-right-style: none" class="wlEmoticon wlEmoticon-smile" alt="Smile" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbDUi7widRFaz5U3s_LVEyy9xvt8Yz-ae0ARJesrCmdFnOvnfVKorJERrrJB7njwditmPfc4yIZJTNiJ_Ta5cawT2cwD1YdFamTLH0Jw_tImOar1t_5D4G4znWQS2ibp6COJYACqMnu2c/?imgmax=800"></font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-4629023111767803002012-01-02T22:47:00.001-08:002012-01-02T22:47:47.193-08:00as much as it pains me…<p><font size="3">I seriously need to commit to this blogging, or let it go.</font></p> <p><font size="3">I know, I know, I’ve said this in the past and meant it… and then flaked out like a giant flake. The thing is, I don’t know how to make myself do this. I WANT to do this, but I don’t know how to make myself. </font></p> <p><font size="3">I’ll figure it out.</font></p> <p><font size="3">So here is the down-low on what’s been what around here. First, we made it through Xmas. I was kinda freaking about how I was going to pay for it, but as it turned out, we got it figured out. And boy oh boy did we make it a good one! I had a fabulous time shopping for everyone, and the best part? Stephen got to come home for the holiday! He was here for two weeks. It was awesome. </font></p> <p><font size="3">The Night Before, I stayed up and, as per usual, drank drinky drinks and wrapped presents. The Man helped, and the work got done pretty quickly. Managed to get it done by 12:30 am, and that, friends, is a record for me. Usually I’m up til 2 or even 3, not that I mind, but getting more than a few hours of sleep on the Night Before is pretty awesome. </font></p> <p><font size="3">Anyway, the kidlets were all up before The Man and I were, even Mary, who at fifteen, could sleep the day away if I let her. The Man woke me up at about 6:20 saying that the kids were all up, and trying to be quiet, but it might be fun if we went ahead and let them have at it. I managed to negotiate making coffee before we released them, and it was on.</font></p> <p><font size="3">Everyone really enjoyed their presents. I have to say, I did a beautiful job this year wrapping. It never ceases to crack me up how long it takes to wrap them, hours and hours, and only minutes to tear them apart. At any rate, everyone loved their gifts, and I always love it when they love what they get.</font></p> <p><font size="3">We had breakfast shortly after, and then got started on making the feast. As usual for us, we had dinner early, and pretty much grazed at it all day and into the evening. I think I OD’ed on pie, to be honest. Totally overdid it. But it was worth it.</font></p> <p><font size="3">The following week we had our New Year’s Eve Extravaganza. We invited some of our friends, which was pretty cool. Everything went really well; the food was awesome, the games were fun, and it seemed like everyone had a pretty great time. The only sad part was that Stephen had to leave for Italy that night, and it about broke my heart to hug him goodbye. After he left, I just cried and cried. I can’t stand the idea that I won’t see him again for another year and a half. And the knowledge that he is being deployed… just, no. I want him here, with us, at home. Where he belongs. But that’s not how it is. And I have to accept that.</font></p> <p><font size="3">Other than that, it was a pretty awesome holiday this year. </font></p> <p><font size="3">More on other stuff later. </font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-6060356876805454202011-12-01T01:15:00.001-08:002011-12-01T01:15:03.855-08:00multi-layered<p><font size="3">It happens sometimes. I’m fine, and then I’m not. I’m okay, and then I’m freaking out. Thoughts of how NOT okay I am start careening around in my head, like manic pinballs. My heart starts racing and my body breaks out in chills, all at once. I’m convinced I can’t breathe. I think, I’m going to die. I’m going to pass out and die right. here. Terror, big and dark and all-consuming, blankets me. I can’t focus on what’s real and what isn’t because in my mind, the physical symptoms mean that death is imminent. Because something is Seriously Wrong and I. am. going. to. die.</font></p> <p><font size="3">It’s called a panic attack. A very apt name since it really is an attack of panic. Unexpected, it hits you from out of nowhere. Hard and fast and painful, it takes your nerve and your breath and your composure and consumes you.</font></p> <p><font size="3">I’ve had them for years and years. When I was a teenager, sometimes I would have them multiple times a day. Over and over. I would wake up and almost as soon as my eyes opened, one would start. Or maybe I’d already be in the throes of one. They were terrible. They were horrible. They used me up and wrung me out and left me a mess in its wake. I made a fool of myself in front of my friends, at sleepovers, at school. I cried and cowered in absolute misery because of them. I had no handle on them. I had no control. They were eating me alive.</font></p> <p><font size="3">I had to find a way to not live with them but to deal with them, and a woman whose name I can’t remember gave me the key to handling them on my own. She said to me that she used to have them, too, and that she had to focus hard on something, something solid and real and right in front of her. Something she could look at and touch and hold. And focus on that, and only that, and breathe. Breathe, breathe, breathe, and make the world smaller and smaller until only that thing you’re focused on exists. Until it is the sum total of your world. </font></p> <p><font size="3">It was like being thrown a lifeline when you’re drowning. I grasped onto that concept and made it my mantra. It was what helped me get a handle on the panic attacks, </font></p> <p><font size="3">They’ve declined steadily over the years, and now I can usually head them off before they even get going. There’s not always an obvious trigger; sometimes they just come on, for no apparent reason. I’ve come to recognize the tale-tell signs, and for the most part, I can get a grip before it grips me. </font></p> <p><font size="3">And then there are the times that I can’t, like tonight. It took awhile to come back down. It took a lot to manage to step back from the brink. And now I’m afraid to go lay down in the dark and try and sleep. I’m afraid to let down my guard. I’m afraid to relax.</font></p> <p><font size="3">So here I am, tapping away on my computer. Hopefully soon I can find my way to peace before the night drags on too much longer. I’m tired. </font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-9685182992051411742011-11-25T14:29:00.001-08:002011-11-25T14:31:45.983-08:00last night I wanted to punch sleep in the face<p><font size="3">I’m not normally a violent person, but sometimes, I want to punch things and people. </font></p> <p><font size="3">I never do, though. Goes back to being “not violent”. I mean, if I had to, like, fight for my life, I could punch things or people. Or if my kids or dog were being threatened, I could see myself taking a swing or three. I’m not really a real life badass, but in my head…? I so totally AM.</font></p> <p><font size="3">That being said, last night, as I lay in bed trying to fall asleep, I wanted to punch things. The longer I lay there awake, the angrier I got. Sleep, that elusive bastard, was nowhere in sight. </font></p> <p><font size="3">I did all the usual tricks that normally take me away to the Land of Nod, but all that happened was… me not sleeping. I tried doing the most boring and lame thing ever, my no-fail thing, counting backwards from 100. I’ve never made it to zero. Last night I did. Twice. </font></p> <p><font size="3">I gave up at one point and wandered down to the living room where I was going to read <a href="http://harpercollins.com/books/The-Strain/?isbn=9780061558238" target="_blank"><font color="#c0504d">The Strain</font></a> (I’m close to the end) and then I remembered that it was the middle of the night, everyone was asleep, and this book scares me in broad daylight so maybe I SHOULDN’T read it. I decided to watch TV instead. Oh, good! I have some episodes of Dexter to catch up on… erm. Hmmm. Maybe not…? Dexter doesn’t scare me, per se, but the premise of the show is suitably creepy, and that might work against the whole sleeping thing. Skip that. So I channel surf, and find a show on <a href="http://investigation.discovery.com/" target="_blank"><font color="#c0504d">ID</font></a>, only maybe I shouldn’t watch that either because it’s all true crime stuff, and it’s in the middle of the night… and I’m alone out here… and… and… what was that noise?</font></p> <p><font size="3">See, no one was winning. Not even Charlie Sheen was winning. It was an epic no-win kinda night. </font></p> <p><font size="3">I decided that I was definitely tired enough to go to bed and fall asleep. I told myself that it was late, I should be asleep, and I was ready for it. Part of me was rolling my eyes at myself and saying in my head that it wasn’t so because I knew I was lying. I told myself to shut my whore mouth, to leave me alone and stop being so negative.</font></p> <p><font size="3">Shut it. It made total sense last night.</font></p> <p><font size="3">So I headed back to my large, comfy bed where my man was sleeping all unawares that I had even left. I crawled in next to him, slid my sleep mask over my eyes, snuggled into my fluffy pillow and my blankets, got in the perfect sleep position, settled in and…</font></p> <p><font size="3">didn’t. fall. asleep.</font></p> <p><font size="3">Didn’t even DOZE. OFF.</font></p> <p><font size="3">What the fluffer, nutter? </font></p> <p><font size="3">Instead I lay there, totally comfortable and totally willing myself to sleep while my brain was laughing at me and doing cartwheels and going “neener neener neener”, and every time I tried to stop thinking, it would just take off in a new direction. It was a veritable whirlwind of activity. Where was sleep to put a curtail on this maniac? </font></p> <p><font size="3">And then, do you know what happened? I had to move. A perfectly perfect sleep position RUINED because my arm fell asleep before I did and I HAD TO MOVE. That just sucks, man. That just totally sucks.</font></p> <p><font size="3">I tossed and turned, unable to find another perfect position because, you know, that’s how it goes. And meanwhile my brain, having run out of meaningful matter to think about, starts in on the most inane and random things EVER. Things that I don’t even care about! Things I don’t even know why I know them! </font></p> <p><font size="3">I thought about getting up again and maybe reading something else or maybe finding a night-time appropriate show but by this time I was determined to GO TO SLEEP. I was going to lay there ALL NIGHT IF I HAD TO, but I was going to get some bloody sleep if. it. was. the. last. thing. I. did. </font></p> <p><font size="3">Screwing my eyes shut, curled in a tight ball, grimly determined to grab sleep and throttle the ever loving hell out of it when I finally caught it, convinced that I was going to see the light of day behind my closed lids before I saw true slumber, mad as hell…</font></p> <p><font size="3">I woke up five hours later, convinced that I was awake all night although I couldn’t quite explain how five hours had gone by with me all unawares… </font></p> <p><font size="3">It seems that sleep, that conniving ass, snuck up on me when I wasn’t looking and did it’s job anyway.</font></p> <p><font size="3">Next time, sleep. Next time you won’t be so lucky. </font></p> <p><font size="3"></font> </p> <p><font size="3"></font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-7471193930797466772011-11-24T21:33:00.001-08:002011-11-24T21:33:13.748-08:00it’s not that i don’t want to…<p><font size="3">I just don’t. I keep thinking I should get on here and write something, anything… and then I let myself get distracted. I started working on a blog a few days ago but it turned out to be way longer than I thought it was going to be, so I saved it to drafts, meant to get back to it, and still haven’t.</font></p> <p><font size="3">On the plus side, I’ve been reading a lot. I finished three books this past week, and that’s never a bad thing. And the house…? isn’t even trashed because I have KIDS who CLEAN! </font></p> <p><font size="3">So today is Thanksgiving. I feel like this is, like Valentine’s Day, a fake holiday. One that, if you think about it, shouldn’t exist. But it does, and it has for a long time, and me boycotting it isn’t going to change it. Instead, I changed the reasons we celebrate it. It’s really all about the food and having A LOT of it today. Don’t get me wrong; there have been other Tdays where we had turkey sandwiches, and even turkey TV dinners, because we couldn’t do the whole turkey dinner feast. Kinda sucked. But it was what it was, and I don’t think that anyone has ever died because they had to eat TV dinners instead of the real deal on Tday. </font></p> <p><font size="3">Anyway, where was I? Oh yeah. Food. Lots of it. That, my friends, we had indeed. A huge bird that That Guy I Married got in the oven early this morning. We had pies and potatoes and gravy and corn and biscuits and stuffing and cranberry sauce and I think that’s it. We eat early and then just pick at it for the rest of the day and again for dinner. And then put it all away, and tomorrow, we’ll have leftovers!</font></p> <p><font size="3">Yay! for leftovers.</font></p> <p><font size="3">They call tomorrow Black Friday, and if I didn’t have to, I wouldn’t be venturing forth in it. But, I have to. I have to get some lady products of the feminine hygiene sort because I suck at planning ahead. If that was too TMI for you, well, then forget you just read that last paragraph. </font></p> <p><font size="3">Anyway, while I’m venturing forth, I hope I don’t die. I don’t plan on going anywhere NEAR the toy section or the electronic section or even the clothes section; I seriously doubt (hope) that there is going to be a run on the lady products. I checked the ads, and it looks like that aisle, at least, is clear of deals and steals. So I might make it out in one piece. If not… well. It was nice knowing you.</font></p> <p><font size="3">And yeah. It’s later than I thought it was. I took a nap today, and it’s kinda messed up my whole inner clock. </font></p> <p><font size="3">Catch ya later…</font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-11969450155791276572011-11-02T18:41:00.001-07:002011-11-02T18:41:55.936-07:00tonight i am a badass because i made dinner<p><font size="3">Now, before you get all “psssh, I do that all the time”, let me explain. </font></p> <p><font size="3">See, I’m a mom and a wife and the owner of a pretty cute dog. My kids are homeschooled, and I’m of the stay-at-home-variety. My kids aren’t little anymore (almost 15 down to 10), so they don’t need that same intensity of constant monitoring that they did when they were younger. Still, my attention is rarely on just ME, if you get what I mean. I’ve got a lot going on all the time. It’s the life I signed up for, and I like it.</font></p> <p><font size="3">That being what it is, some nights I just don’t FEEL like making dinner. I’m, like, “dinner, make yourself!”. It has yet to actually happen. And since I don’t have a personal chef, I have to make it myself. My kids are JUST getting to that age where they can (and do) help, but they have yet to do it solo. I don’t think they’re ready; I’M not ready, either. </font></p> <p><font size="3">So anyway, some nights I just really don’t want to. And if we can swing it, those nights we get pizza or maybe Chinese. Tonight was one of those nights. I just really didn’t want to. And there weren’t enough leftovers to feed all six of us, either. However, neither was I feeling like takeout. So it was, like, a stand-off. Between myself and… well, myself. </font></p> <p><font size="3">So what was I to do? </font></p> <p><font size="3">Yeah, I got in there and I made the freaking dinner. It was easy, homemade chicken nuggets and French fries, but I still had to do it. And after it was done and baked and served, and as I sat there eating, I felt like SUCH a badass. Like, yeah, dinner… you don’t want to make yourself? I’LL SHOW YOU! </font></p> <p><font size="3">The kids were happy, that guy I married was happy, I was happy (because thinking of myself as a badass always makes me happy)… the only one who WASN’T happy was the dog. She didn’t get any of our food, and she pouted and stared at me mournfully the entire time I was eating. Sucks to be her, cause it was good! </font></p> <p><font size="3"></font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-11414474016288192852011-09-28T08:46:00.001-07:002011-09-28T08:46:36.267-07:00trying to figure some stuff out<p><font size="3">When life gets weird for me, I retreat. And I don’t mean weird in that things around me are weird, but weird inside my head. Weirder than usual, I mean.</font></p> <p><font size="3">Sometimes it’s just random, no trigger, nothing out of the ordinary; my brain just decides to regurgitate things from the deep and I’m forced to deal with it. Other times I can feel that something is coming, some THING, and I have to anticipate it. And then sometimes life around me gets harder, and my brain wants to go into lock down and I want to retreat behind the pages of my books, in the world of my Sims, kill some <a href="http://deadisland.deepsilver.com/deadisland.php" target="_blank">zombies</a>… anything except interact with actual real humans. Except I have four kids and a husband and needy little doggie and retreating is not always an option. Mostly not an option, anyway.</font></p> <p><font size="3">Luckily my family is pretty understanding and they let me be when I get weird. Well, the girls do. The boy child, who is eleven, not so much; not because he isn’t a sweetheart (he so is) but because he’s… an eleven year old boy. He doesn’t, you know, GET IT. The husband is pretty great at running interception for me, and thank the gods for that man, because he understands me so well. He can even sense when things are about to get weird, like some kind of emotional weather-man. Sometimes he’ll bring it to my attention before I’m even aware of it, pointing out in his gentle (but only with me) way, and in some rare instances, I can head it off before it even starts. </font></p> <p><font size="3">The last thing I want to do is go and be social. I want to hide, and pretend that the outside world doesn’t exist, that this right here is the beginning and the end of the known universe. I could happily stay inside all week, all weekend, and only venture out so far to get the mail. </font></p> <p><font size="3">Alas, it’s really the last thing I need to be doing. Before this weird set in, I made plans for the weekend. Hanging out with my friend, having an old fashioned sleepover, having guests over for dinner, interacting with other adult shaped humans I’m not related to for the entire weekend. I can’t let the weird settle in too deep or cling too hard because I have things to DO. </font></p> <p><font size="3">I guess I’ll just have to get over it. I hope it’s as easy as it sounds.</font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-55347291723694075192011-09-07T15:49:00.001-07:002012-01-02T22:55:51.803-08:00it’s bloody hot out there<p><font size="3" face="Calibri">I’ll be the first to admit that we here in San Diego, CA are big wimps and giant man-babies when it comes to the weather. When other parts of the country are buried in snow, we’re whining about the lack of sunshine on a 63* day, and that we *have* to “wear a jacket” outside. My friends in the South will be literally deluged with water from three week long rainstorms, and we’re up in arms about how “unseasonably” humid it is out here. We probably have the most cheerful weather reporters in the world, and yet we’re ready to string them up if they predict a less than perfect day in the forecast. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">I’ve heard it said that those who have rarely, if ever, been here think that it’s always sunny, beautiful, and a balmy 75*. Mostly they’re right; I like to call this the land of two seasons, summer, and not-summer. We ARE lucky when it comes to the weather, and it’s probably the main reason we pay the big bucks to live here. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">That being said, and considering that I AM a self-proclaimed weather wuss… today it got hot. Yesterday it was, too, but today was hotter. Hot enough to be hot anywhere, I think, at 102*. Hot like you go outside and the air sucks all the moisture from you, and you’re hurrying to get from one air-conditioned place to the next. Water in bottles, in glasses, from the faucet, even straight from the hose, if you have to, tastes like the manna of life. Hot like you cross the pavement and you can feel your shoes almost melting, and the radiant heat crawling through your soles and up your calves. Hot that even that breeze that just sprang up feels more like a blast from the furnace, and the only redeeming thing about being in the shade is that the glare of the sun isn’t in your eyes anymore. Hot like that. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">That was what today was. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">I took my kids to the library and as we stepped from the back porch into the heat of the driveway, we almost decided to go back inside. Still, we went, and I was glad that we have a carport and that our van hadn’t been baking in the sun all day; no way would we have gone then, no matter that my requested book was there and waiting for me. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">Walking from the car and into the library made me wish I had brought some water from home, for all that it’s fifty feet from the lot to the door. Stepping into that library was like jumping into a pool of cool water; all silent, cold air washing over you and cooling you from head to foot in one moment from the next. It almost shocks you, making you want to stand completely still and absorb that cold air into your body, storing it up because you know that sooner or later, you have to go back outside. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">Hot like that, today was. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">Later, we’ll take the dog for a walk because right now, she’d probably fall over from the heat and that wouldn’t be good. She’s small and low to the ground and the heat hits her harder and faster than it does us. After her walks on days like this, even if we wait til evening, she comes in and lays on her side and pants, her little body radiating heat until she finally regulates, and then she just sleeps and sleeps. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">Hot that I don’t really care how high the bill gets for our using the air conditioning today; I don’t know what we’d do if were still in our old house, without it. Sweating into puddles, if we’d had any moisture left, probably. I’m really glad we live in this house now. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Calibri">Hopefully tomorrow will bring cooler weather. Until then, stay frosty.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"></font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-9621830359647474192011-09-06T14:47:00.001-07:002012-01-02T22:57:32.743-08:00my kids are insane.<p><font color="#333333" size="3" face="Calibri">Day Two of Project Homeschool started out much more smoothly than I expected. We got right to it; discussion, then journals, then moved onto math. </font></p> <p><font color="#333333" size="3" face="Calibri">And this is where things get weird…</font></p> <p><font size="3"><font face="Calibri"><font color="#333333">After a certain amount of time passed, I said it was time to move onto the next thing. Instead of the glee *I* would have expressed at being able to shove math to the side</font> <font color="#a5a5a5">(so not a math fan, despite that it CAN BE useful… from time to time…) </font><font color="#333333">I was greeted with groans and moans. “Do we HAVE to?” and “This was just getting good!”</font></font></font></p> <p><font color="#333333" size="3" face="Calibri">No, really. </font></p> <p><font color="#333333" size="3" face="Calibri">I had to check and double check and then one more time to make sure that these were MY kids and that they WEREN’T kidding and that none of them had been struck on the head or body snatched by aliens. Because… math? REALLY? </font></p> <p><font color="#333333" size="3" face="Calibri">It gets worse. The eldest girl says “I love this. I’m having so much fun.” And my second daughter, Alexandra, upon hearing that we could do math for thirty more minutes, punches the air hisses “YESSSSSS!” </font></p> <p><font color="#333333" size="3" face="Calibri">What, what, what are they THINKING?</font></p> <p><font color="#333333" size="3" face="Calibri">At least the youngest amongst them has not gone insane, or so I thought. When she heard that we going to continue with math, she groaned, moaned, and whined. However, when it came time to REALLY move on this time, she whines that she wants to finish “these last few problems, please, Mom?”</font></p> <p><font color="#333333" size="3" face="Calibri">Which proved to me that whatever dread disease they’ve contracted IS catching. I am going to have be very careful and check myself for signs of contagion. If I start exhibiting signs of this malady, please get me some help, posthaste. You have my permission to do what needs be done!</font></p> <p><font color="#333333" size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"></font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-44514490071824208172011-09-05T17:45:00.001-07:002011-09-05T17:45:44.809-07:00like a big puzzle<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">… and I only have a few pieces, so far. That was what day one of homeschooling was like. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Day one went pretty well. The kids were eager to get started, and they were ready and willing well before it was time to start. I was excited, and wanted to start early, too, but the husband said that it was probably a better idea if we start when we’re supposed to (9 am), and after I thought about it, yeah. He’s right. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I was kinda nervous. More because I just wasn’t sure, really, how this was going to play out. We started with the general outline of how our days were going to go. I had them write in journals they’re going to keep during the school year, and then we discussed what they wrote. They seemed eager to start doing some work, and even though I hadn’t really PLANNED on doing work today… well, why not? </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">The room isn’t totally set up yet, I don’t have all the stuff I need for their schooling, I kinda feel clueless about the whole thing… but… </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">that’s alright. We’ll figure it out; of that, I have no doubt. </font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-60018270510387238362011-09-04T19:47:00.001-07:002011-09-04T19:47:03.859-07:00tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">*deep breath*</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Tomorrow I start something I’ve been talking about for months. Tomorrow starts a whole new chapter in my and my family’s life. Tomorrow is the first day of…</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"> homeschooling!</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Am I nervous? Yeah. More because I’m not totally prepared, but me not being totally prepared is part of the grand plan. At first I had this idea that I had to have all things ready, everything in place, this whole schedule made and a course set. And things just didn’t fall out that way, but instead of freaking out…</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Okay, I kinda sorta freaked out.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">…instead of freaking out <em>overmuch</em>, I looked at how I could make this work. And what I figured out is that <font size="5">it’s better that I don’t have a plan. </font></font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">No, really, <a href="http://smilesmilesandtrials.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Shanna</a>, stop choking on your coffee and listen, I KNOW what I’m talking about. Really. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">It turns out that it’s BETTER that I don’t have a plan because this way, I can do what I said I wanted to do all along- go in the direction that my kids take me. Now, don’t get me wrong; I plan to educate them. They WILL be doing things like math and English and geography and history and all that good stuff… but not quite so rigidly. Instead of having everything in place, we can explore different ways of learning. We can tailor each lesson according to each child’s needs,<em> which was the point originally. </em></font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">This started because of the budget cuts to our schools and how unhappy with that The Man and I were with it. And then, looking deeper, and seeing how this was really affecting our children’s learning process in the classroom, the idea to homeschool began to take form. At first, it was just an idea thrown out there. As time went on, and I really looked into it, it not only seemed plausible, but like the right thing TO do. Almost like, why weren’t we doing this ALL ALONG?</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I mean, it might suck, I’m not saying that it won’t. We might all be unhappy with it in the long run. I don’t think that’ll be the case… but I have to consider it. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">That’s a risk I’m willing to take. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I really look forward to tomorrow. I think it’s going to be the start of a really great time in our lives!</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">In other news, right now, at this moment, my eldest daughter Noel is wearing my hat and has wrapped a quilt around her shoulders and is spinning and swaying around my room in time to Canon in D. She is a strange child, that one. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I wouldn’t have her any other way, I really wouldn’t…</font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-91029070683509480202011-09-03T23:57:00.001-07:002011-09-03T23:57:32.378-07:00what to write, what to write…<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I used to love writing. I wrote something, somewhere, everyday, practically. In my journal, in notebooks, someplace online… just whatever, whenever.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Then I stopped. I don’t really know what happened. It’s like I lost interest. I haven’t written in my journal for months. I feel like things are passing me by, and by not recording them, I’ve been letting them slip away between my fingers. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Everything just happens so fast now. The kids are growing at alarming rates, the new school year is upon us, The Man and I are about to celebrate our eighth anniversary… I know that isn’t a really long time to be married in the grand scheme of things, but that’s not really my point. My point is that <em>eight years of marriage just went by</em>, and it feels like it was just a few months ago that I was standing next to that man, repeating my vows and saying I will, I do, forever. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I feel like I blink, and time passes.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">My two older daughters, Noel and Alex, are both as tall as I am (that isn’t saying a lot, since I’m, like, 5’3”) but still… I remember being able to hoist them onto my hip! It wasn’t that long ago that <em>they</em> were looking up at <em>me</em>! And the younger two, Douglas and Therese, are right there, hot on their heels, growing faster than I think they should be. Douglas is eleven, and I had to buy him new pants recently; just the other day, I was looking through my closet, and found the sleeper I put him in the day we came home from the hospital. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">It’s hard to believe, looking at him now, that he was ever that small. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I need to get better at recording things. I want to more than remember, I want to know for sure that my recollection of events are accurate. I want the evidence of my own words that things happened. Even if it’s only me that ever reads any of it. Even if it’s only me that wants to look back and “remember when…”</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"></font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-82885548019812970282011-08-24T21:11:00.001-07:002011-08-24T21:12:10.916-07:00my little big girl<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Something happened this past weekend, something seemingly small in the grand scheme of things, but huge in reality. Something monumental. A milestone. A landmark moment.</font></p> <p><font size="5" face="Comic Sans MS">I dropped my daughter off at the mall.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Her name is Noel, and she is 14. She’s tall and lovely and sweet and smart and funny. I adore her, and I think the feeling is mutual. She has a very best friend, a girl named Isabella, and they share similar personalities and views and even look alike. Isabella has spent as much time over here as Noel has over there. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">This past weekend, Noel asked if I would take them to the mall. The crux; she wanted me to simply drop them off <em>and leave. </em>The reason this is such a huge deal is because <em>this has never happened before. </em>I’ve ALWAYS gone to the mall with her; even when we go to the movies, and she sits in a different part of the theater with her friend, I’m still there. Right there with her, guarding her and protecting her and making sure that she’s safe. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I’m not a helicopter mom- I don’t really hover. I know you might be wondering how that can be true when I just said I’m always around whenever we go out. The thing is, she’s never made this request before, asking me to drop them off and leave; I knew it would happen, but that was always “some day”. In the future. When she was “old enough”.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Well, she’s old enough. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">So I took her and her friend to the mall and dropped them off. I DID have some things I wanted/needed to do while I was there, like go to <a href="http://www.worldmarket.com/home/index.jsp" target="_blank">Cost Plus World Market</a> and get this soap-</font></p> <p><a href="http://www.worldmarket.com/product/index.jsp?productId=11585528" target="_blank"><img src="http://cpwm.imageg.net/graphics/product_images/pCPWM-6011251_outfit_v300x300.jpg"></a></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">(it’s completely awesome, by the way- click the pic for a link to check it out)</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">a</font><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">nd to <a href="http://www.barnesandnoble.com/" target="_blank">Barnes & Noble</a> to get this book-</font></p> <p><img src="http://img2.imagesbn.com/images/13730000/13738728.JPG"></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"><a href="http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/474072.Neverwhere" target="_blank">Neverwhere</a> by Neil Gaiman. So it wasn’t like I was just <em>leaving</em>, although I wasn’t planning on staying, either. My friend <a href="http://zombithon.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Neya</a> was with me and we went where we needed to go. At first, it seemed that Noel and Isabella were following us; I don’t think that she quite knew what to do with this new found freedom, and she was accustomed to just being with me whenever we go anywhere. However, after I was done with my errands, I waved goodbye to her, and left.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">It was SO WEIRD driving away without her in the car. I felt like I had forgotten something. It was just… strange.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">And, in a way, it was like I was passing the torch.<font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"> I remember going to the mall when I was a teenager, hanging out with my friends. We either walked or took the bus or, if we were lucky, catch a ride with someone’s parent before any of us could drive. We could, and did, spend hours at the mall, just wandering around, looking at things, and just generally being teenagers. It was a lot of fun. Kinda the highlight of the week, right?</font></font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">A few hours later she called for an extraction, and I headed over there to collect her. She and Isabella were full of laughter and giggles, and when I asked what it was that they did, they both just burst out laughing. I couldn’t help but smile; they were so happy. Just, young and happy and carefree. It was cool seeing her like that.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">A little sad for me, the mom, because it’s just another step in the direction of her growing up… and out. I feel like things are starting to happen very quickly now…</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"></font> </p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"></font> </p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"></font> </p> <p> </p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"></font> </p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"></font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-24933855843867259012011-08-13T17:41:00.001-07:002011-08-13T17:41:11.315-07:00my life in fast forward<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">All too often, things don’t go as planned. My plans to register in school this semester have been somewhat debunked, due to lack of financial funds. I find it highly, somewhat bitterly, ironic that I can’t afford school, and my husband makes too much on paper for me to qualify for financial aid. My taxes, and people like me, pay for those who are unable to pay for themselves… and yet if <u>I</u> want to go to school, I have to either pay out of pocket or take out a loan. I’m not upset at those who need financial aid; far from it. If I could utilize it, I would. That’s what it’s for, to help those you NEED it. I’m mad at the system. The stupid, broken system. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I’m not complaining that I don’t have enough. I’m not mad because we only make just enough. Having been on the receiving end of never having enough to make ends meet, of having to rob Peter to pay Paul month after month, of being perpetually behind all the time, of having horrid credit… I am so freaking grateful that we have enough now to make ends meet. I’m so grateful for the job security, the steady paycheck, the fact that every other week I can fill my fridge and cupboards, fill my gas tanks, even go out to dinner every once in awhile, and I’ve managed to cobble enough together the past two years to take trips to visit friends. I have reliable vehicles, my kids and husband are healthy, and I even have a pet that I can provide the good dog food for and not have to go cheap because I can’t afford not to. So don’t read me wrong; I have a good life, and I know it. I just wish… I really, really wish that I could afford school. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I wish that so hard. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I guess it’s human nature, maybe selfishly, to want more. I have friends who would trade places with my situation in a hot second, and I’m ever mindful of that. I try really hard to not be bitter about things I can’t change, and I try really hard to focus on the things I have instead of the things I want. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">This school thing, though…. this is hard for me to accept as is. I keep crunching the numbers and because of other obligations, it just isn’t going to work out right now. It’s frustrating and I’m having a hard time working through and getting over it. That being said, I keep telling myself, maybe next semester… maybe…. maybe….</font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-29014948462554960942011-07-19T16:46:00.001-07:002011-07-19T16:46:28.823-07:00excuses, excuses<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I feel like I’ve been on the dark side of the moon. Not really lost, exactly, just not in the mood to do anything beyond what needs to be done. I’ve been busy enjoying my kids and husband and my cute little dog, reading some really awesome books, and playing Plants vs. Zombies on the XBox and Spore on the computer. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Things that have changed since last I wrote:</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">1. Stephen, Bonus Son One, has gone, this time for good, probably. He couch crashed with us for over a year before finally being able to get his military issues worked out, and now instead of being a reservist Marine Corp. he is active duty in the Army. After three false starts, six months ago he really did leave. First he went to <a href="http://www.bragg.army.mil/" target="_blank">Fort Bragg</a> in North Carolina. Although he made it through training for airborne, he chose to opt out on special forces and be reassigned to a different unit. He came home for a week earlier this month, and now he’s in Italy for two years. I know that I ‘m only supposed to feel proud, but I also feel worried for him, because regardless of who gave birth to him, he’s a son to me in my heart, and a mother worries when her kids aren’t around. And he is so very far away… but I am really proud of him. He’s a neat guy. And I really, really like him.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">2. We moved. Don’t even get me started on the level of crazy my former landlords got to; suffice to say, they have issues. After the stove broke in that place, and the huge fallout behind it, Joe and I decided that it would be best for everyone if we moved. So come tax return time, that’s what we did. We moved from that house to one just down the street, one that’s about 30 years newer and a whole lot nicer, with an actual company for a landlord instead of Crazy T and her husband. We have AC, guys. It’s been five years since I lived in a place with AC; I almost didn’t know how to act. The rooms are smaller but the kitchen is awesome and the tradeoff is SO worth it. Especially considering what they did to the next tenant; they took his deposit and his rent for five months and didn’t pay the mortgage, and didn’t say anything, and when the mortgage company foreclosed, didn’t answer or return their tenant’s calls or emails. Joe and I feel like we totally, totally dodged a bullet there. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">3. In big, huge, giant news… I’m going to homeschool the wee beasties this next year. The short explanation for that is because the state of California has cut billions from our education budget and the result of that has been drastic cuts in our schools. Larger class sizes, fewer teachers and staff, different programs being cut… you name it, it’s been affected. After much deliberating, discussion, and research, I made the decision to take them out and homeschool. It’s going to be very interesting, but I’m excited. And nervous. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">4. And, back to school I go, as well. In short, I want to buy a house. I’m sick of paycheck to paycheck living. Tired of barely pulling through, one month after the next. Some weeks we have less money than we have people in the family in the bank account, and that bites. So that means me getting a job. The problem is that I have a very limited skill set, so any job I get is going to be minimum wage, weird hours, and not enough overall. So I’ve looked into different options and decided to go with the dental hygienist program. I have to have several pre-requisite classes first, so I’ll start there. Realistically, we’re talking about three, three and a half years before I get my degree and can go to work. However, it is what it is and we all think this is the best route. If we’re ever going to be able to buy a house, this is the best way.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">5. I’m taking a trip in Virginia to visit some friends I met via a social network called <a href="http://www.cafemom.com/" target="_blank">Cafemom</a>. I’ve “known” these women for the better part of two, three years and some of them I’ve been lucky enough to meet in real life (I went to visit my best friend in Texas a year ago and several of my Cafemom friends lived close enough to get together). I’m so, so, so excited to meet my friends. This is going to be such a good time! I’m really looking forward to it. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">And that’s that, as they say. More later.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"></font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-55250377361086350272010-11-25T21:18:00.001-08:002010-11-25T21:18:16.401-08:00thankful!<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">It’s Turkey Day, y’all. Hope everyone had a happy one! </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">As for me and mine, we had a lovely one. As per usual, Man got the turkey in the oven verrah early (he’s totally in charge of it; I don’t wanna) and thus it was ready by noon. I made all the side fixings, and we had a pretty good feast. The kids were totally excited by all the food. And as we sat around feasting, I felt really good that we were able to provide this for them. I know that there are a lot of people out there who can’t.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">We spent the day eating and goofing around and reading. I had a couple glasses of wine and had a nice buzz happening. Then I got really, really tired and took a really, really good nap. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">My good friend Friend came down and had dinner with us; she brought a delicious pumpkin pie (MADE WITH REAL PUMPKIN!!) just for me. I should share it buuuuut…. no. All for me! </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I’m kinda kidding, and kinda serious about that. Not sure which way I’m going to swing yet.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I called my father earlier and it was nice talking to him; he’s still plugging away out there in PA. My brother and sister are doing good, but his dad isn’t doing so well; Grumpy is 85, and yeah… not so hot. Dad says his health has really declined. But he’s not in any pain… so that’s good. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">So that’s a rundown of our Thanksgiving. It was good; can’t complain!</font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-38252731797065230372010-11-18T07:09:00.001-08:002010-11-18T07:09:27.528-08:00i should be disappointed, but i’m not<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I lost my voice yesterday. My kids have all had the flu, and I caught it, but only for one day. What stayed around was this lingering, nagging cold. Not the worst cold I’ve ever had but still, annoying. Well, yesterday I woke up and realized that my voice was taking a hiatus and in its place was this squeaky sounding thing that did not lend itself to getting the respect that I should get from my various offspring. Meaning that they found it HI-larious that their mom sounded like Mickey Mouse on speed.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">They kept asking me to do things, like swear. And then laugh. I really should beat them more…</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Today, though, my voice is back! And so is the respect!</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I’ve been working on a new afghan lately and thought that last weekend I would have finished it. It’s one of those that you crochet several pieces and then assemble them and sew them together. Well, upon assemblage, I realized that original creator of said afghan must have been a garden gnome because the afghan was that small. Could comfortably cover up my dog (who is about the size of a garden gnome), but not a whole grown up type person like… say… me.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">So after some brainstorming, included ideas like making the border, like, really really big or just carrying forth and just giving it to the dog after all, I finally decided to just go ahead and double the number of afghan pieces and make the afghan twice as big. And THEN it should be big enough for one person, especially since the border will add to the size. This, however, creates more work for me and sets the time frame for completion back another three weeks.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I really should be kinda bummed about this because I have a few other afghan projects lined up after I finish this one that I really want to do, but… I’m not disappointed. I like crocheting. More than that, I like solving problems that <em>I can solve</em>. I guess the problem solving thing has more to do with the fact that I’m kind-of a control freak and less to do with the enjoyment of crocheting, so maybe being happy about solving this kind of problem shouldn’t give me the kind of glee that it does since it’s feeding an issue that I really should be working on instead of enabling. However, that does not negate the fact that I am kinda excited about doubling the size of my afghan because the original pattern was too small. Either that says more about my life (or lack thereof) than is healthy or I really should get some therapy. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Or maybe I should stop overanalyzing the hell out of everything, including (especially) my own motives. But I think that is also part of the whole control freak thing, though, so I don’t know that I actually can without some sort of pharmaceutical intervention, and dood, all I want to do is finish the afghan! </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">And that is where that leaves me, today. </font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-71615552694528832272010-11-17T17:16:00.001-08:002010-11-17T17:16:26.495-08:00following the path of least resistance<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I can’t believe I spelled that right on the first try. I bet you didn’t know it, but I am a wretched speller. The reason you didn’t know that about me is because I’m, like, Queen of Spell Check Using. Only don’t call me that because it makes me sound less serious than I really am, and I am pretty fucking serious most of the time. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Seriously.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">So today I was thinking that I should get dressed and act like a productive member of society only here’s the thing; I don’t wanna. And then I was all “oh my gods, Jenna, you’re such a looooser, what do you do all day?” to which I replied “I am NOT a loser! And I do stuff all day, just… you don’t know everything I do!” and then I realized that once again I am having an argument with myself and… losing. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Here’s the thing; I am lazy. Like, extremely. I don’t live in a mess of a wreck or anything- stuff gets cleaned and picked up. But it’s more of a haphazardly type thing, like I see it and clean it up. And if it takes me a few days to picking up that rolled up sock on the floor that missed the hamper, or the pieces of paper that didn’t quite make the trash can, or whatever thing it is, then it takes me a few days. And then sometimes I’m on it like white on rice, and I go all insane and clean like a maniac and life and my house smells like Lemon Mr. Clean. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">The problem with going all insane and cleaning is that invariably it <em>gets dirty again</em>. And I seriously hate that. I have it in my head that once I expend all this energy in cleaning something, it should fucking STAY clean! Like, forever! But it only works like that in soap operas. Have you ever noticed that in soaps, the houses are ALWAYS clean, and no one is ever actually cleaning? No? Just me…? huh…</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Anyway.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Where was I? Oh yeah… cleaning… </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Um. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I think I’ll go do something else. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS"></font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-23838982197400029242010-11-16T11:38:00.001-08:002010-11-16T16:36:17.288-08:00wide open spaces<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I’m totally a stay at home mom. Now complete with little purse sized dog and a mini-van. Kids go to school, Man goes to work and I hang out here and think of new and exciting things to do. Sometimes I even bake cookies and homemade bread. Right now I’m sipping a cup of java in my favorite elephant mug. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">A complete and total stereotype, I am.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I’m not complaining! I’m not, like, bored or unhappy or anything (that’s what the anti-depressants are for!); I dig my life and all that. How could I not? It’s just that sometimes I look at myself and I feel like… what should I do NOW?</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Here’s the truth; I procrastinate. I look at things and think, could I do that tomorrow? Next week? And if the answer is yes, then that is when I do it. The only things I don’t procrastinate on are things that I can’t; take, for example, appointments. I am ever prompt. If I say I’m going to be somewhere, then that’s where I am. I get the kidlets to school on time and I make sure dinner is ready at roughly the same time every evening. So I can DO it… whatever IT is, but I choose NOT to. Make sense?</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">A couple of months ago I decided to rearrange the furniture in my living room. This was prompted because I had a few boxful of books that were languishing in my closet because I didn’t have anyplace to put them; my bookcases were too full. So I bought a new bookcase. Instead of tearing it out of its box and assembling it right then and there, I let it sit. Because I didn’t like where I had planned to place it once assembled; I wanted to rearrange the furniture. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Instead of getting right on that, like normal people, I let it sit. I waited until the time felt “right”. I had never been that thrilled with the placement of my living room furniture in the first place, so me getting the motivation to move it all around in a more pleasing manner was not really that difficult to want to do. Making myself do it…? Took a little longer. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Eventually I got around to it. And like everything in my life, it was a case of one morning, I woke up, and just… got busy. The easiest part was moving the TV and the computer around. The hardest and most demanding part was pulling off all of my books from the shelves and moving the bookcases around. I have. A lot. Of. Fucking. BOOKS. </font></p> <p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi2AtqIAD0U6n9UYNp3UwDLMtrmrykj1BLMzQY72axGHQDaoy045azCZhF9wxbYhiw5CPRiAeKtHuExM5uHhWmYUVxL6cUn4seql3dqZ5eB8Jzt-uoMS4VBq-5D0xbG0hBxoJNY9uYm6K4/s1600-h/Kids%20and%20Stuff%20054%5B3%5D.jpg"><img style="border-bottom: 0px; border-left: 0px; display: inline; border-top: 0px; border-right: 0px" title="Kids and Stuff 054" border="0" alt="Kids and Stuff 054" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhSeWNdf9vtblOF3liAY2-q98L81PjILDPC5KrEhAIqAIdujLEzDxk_3kJ4lZLXoRvR4vms62WGYtFoIaaqBpBLqHum48SLmrdTUNr1DAv_XBvtbtnpewXO-PBvn4o3tt9WQhS57p-a3mg/?imgmax=800" width="344" height="216"></a> </p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">The whole process was totally slowed down because I kept stopping to leaf through this book and that book, reading favorite passages, looking for little factoids that had eluded my memory about specific plot points, making mental notes that I want to read this one and that one and this one over here again… yeah. Thank the gods for my youngest daughter, who loves a project and really through herself into this one; she really helped me get them all organized and back on the shelves. And once we did that, we were able to put together the new bookcase and YAY! Now all of my books are up off the floor and my living room is rearranged more to my liking. Now it’s a wide open space and that is what I always wanted.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">So…</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Yeah.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">What do I do NOW?</font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-79260389012155160512010-10-11T19:57:00.001-07:002010-10-11T19:57:27.948-07:00i applied for a j-o-b<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Tired of living paycheck to paycheck, we are. My husband makes a good living but there are a lot of us, and we live in So Cal, which isn’t cheap. We’re a one income family. We do alright, but at the same time, it feels like there’s never enough to cover everything. I’m not complaining; I know that there are a lot of people who are in way worse a position than we are. I’m extremely grateful that The Man has a good job, and that we can cover our bills. I’ve lived on the other side of that, and I’m no stranger to hardship or wanting. <strong>This</strong> is way better than <strong>that</strong>.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">That being said, I AM tired of living paycheck to paycheck. There’s no such thing as “savings”. If something goes wrong? we’re swinging in the breeze. While we can afford what we have, there isn’t a lot beyond that. So I’ve been thinking about ditching the stay-at-home-mom thing and becoming a working mom. My children are older now, and I don’t feel as bad about leaving them. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">The issues of me working are thus; I’m not overly qualified to DO anything. I can work a register, and I’m great with people, but jobs like that mean working less than desirable hours and if I’m going to be doing that? I want to get <em>paid</em>. Does that make me sound selfish? Do I care? I wanted to go to school and get a degree and do something with it, but that didn’t work out. Ironically I can’t afford school because that guy I married makes too much money. If I were single, I could get all the grant money I needed. However, that isn’t exactly a viable option. Don’t think I don’t see the irony in that. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">So what does that leave me? </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">The county we live in is accepting applications for 911 radio dispatchers for the Sheriff’s Department. No experience required. The hours are going to be long, I’ll have to do shift work, but instead of just having a job, I’ll have a career. That’s IF they hire me. I just put in the application last week, and the process could take months… <em>if</em> they’re even interested. I’m keeping my fingers crossed!</font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-85413363345037649332010-10-10T15:56:00.001-07:002010-10-10T16:29:36.559-07:00see, there was this thing… and then this other thing….<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Which is why I haven’t been writing. I mean, you know, I’ve had… stuff! </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">And that? is really just a a big fat excuse. I’ve been busy, yeah, but I could’ve taken a time out of BUSY and done some writing. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">First things first… I can’t believe it’s been about two weeks since I last blogged… seems like it was just a week… anyway, the thing is, my youngest daughter fainted on the 30th. We were in the bathroom, and I was fixing her hair, and she started complaining that her stomach hurt and that she needed to sit down. Then she went all pale, said the everything was dark, and that was that- lights out. Luckily I was behind her and was able to get under her and keep her from going down. She was all stiff and her eyes were wide open but she wasn’t SEEING anything. Fixed stare thing happening, and I was feeling something like terror, but it was far removed, like it had nothing to do with me. I had to take care of HER. My fear had to take a back seat to what was happening, so it did.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Like I said, I got under her and carried her across the room (we were in my bathroom) to my bed. A few steps from the bed, she came to; her eyes focused, and she looked around in panic, asking me what happened. I felt relief, but again, it was far removed, like it didn’t have anything to do with me. I wanted her to be okay; she was okay. She was scared and confused, but she was okay. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Fast forward; we went to the doctor (duh) and there she received a clean bill of health. Relief much? After a little delayed freaking out (where no one could see), relieved I was indeed.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Fast forward six days, and it happens again, only this time she’s at school. On the swings, and of course she fell off. It was only after I questioned her that I found out that she couldn’t remember falling, couldn’t remember why she fell, couldn’t remember what she was doing to cause her to fall; everything went black, and the next thing she’s aware of, she’s on the ground, her face is cut, and she’s covered in sand. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">This is me, being calm. I have to admit, I was pretty calm. I made her an appointment, got her back into the doctor (her regular pediatrician this time), and now? she’s getting herself a full work up. They’re leaning more towards something neurological, like seizures, rather than something to do with her heart. Both are equally scary to me, but really, I’m pretty calm. I’ll panic if and when I have something to panic about. Until then, there’s no point.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">So next week she’s going to go in and get her head checked, and we’ll go from there.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">And that is what’s going on with that.</font></p>Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-48386337825515279452010-09-25T23:55:00.001-07:002010-09-25T23:55:20.625-07:003d times the charm…?<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I was doing so well, and then… I wasn’t. WHAT HAPPENED? It seems that I lost steam. Can’t explain it any other way… </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I want to do this whole blogging thing… maybe the 100 days is a bit much. Maybe start smaller? Like, an entire month, taking Saturdays off. I could probably do that… yeah?</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I think I need to think about this more. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">So anyway, life has been good. Today especially (according to my clock, I still have 23 minutes of today left). The Man and I went to the Toyota dealership and we bought a new car. A Sienna. A very pretty one. And the best part? We all fit in it! See, this is the first time since the last of my spawn were born that I’ve had a car that my entire family can fit in. As you can surmise, this is a big deal. Until now, we didn’t go too many places together, and when we did, it was always a giant pain in the ass to manage it. Now, though, it’s going to only be a matter of ALL of us getting in the car and ALL of us arriving at the same time! Imagine that!</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">This past week has been rather eventful. Took the younger two kidlets to the dentist- no cavities! But the boy child has to go to an orthodontist; the kid needs braces. Joy. The youngest girl child also had no cavities, and we like it when that happens. She’s taking her oral health very seriously since her visit, brushing and flossing more effectively. But that’s typical of her; when she finally sets her mind to something, she goes and does it. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">The next day, I had a doctor appointment for a previously unmentioned incident, and I’m happy to report a clean bill of health! So say YAY! and we can all get back to the business of whatever our business might be. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Oh, and I turned 34, too. Which was both slightly surreal and anti-climatic. Birthdays just aren’t as exciting as they used to be. I wonder what that’s all about, anyway… </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I DID get some very lovely gifts, though. I have very thoughtful friends and family. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I bought some Halloween decorations this past week, too. VERY exciting stuff, that is. I love it. I’ve never really decorated seasonally before, although I’ve kinda always wanted to. I see other people’s houses and think, <em>hm, that’s neat, I should do something like that</em>… and then… I don’t. THIS year I decided that at least for Halloween, I would decorate. However, the places I’ve been buying my decor from have some very neat trinkets for fall in general, and I’m thinking that after Halloween has passed, it would be neat to get some Thanksgiving type stuff up, too. And of course Xmas…</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I’m beginning to see that it’s a cycle, possibly a vicious one, meant to depart me from my money. However, this is a cycle that I think I don’t think I’ll mind at all!</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Alright, kids. I just heard what I think was gunshot from outside my window. No, I’m not kidding. I don’t think it was super close, but neither was it that far away, so I’m going to take that as my cue and go away to bed now. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I could totally be wrong, because although it sounded like there was some yelling and other excitement happening immediately after the maybe gunshot, I don’t hear anything else, and I think that I would hear sirens by now, because someone would have called the cops. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">(hello, run-on sentence)</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Alright. This is me, signing off. Later, doods. </font></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1377321385533706236.post-46817951031570468772010-09-14T10:58:00.001-07:002010-09-14T10:58:07.191-07:00life happens<p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">100 days of blogging is a great idea… <em>in theory</em>. I’m pretty disappointed that I missed a few days, although it was somewhat inevitable given certain circumstances. No, I don’t really want to share those circumstances. I’ve come to the realization that I’m a fairly private person, and while I don’t mind, even enjoy writing about day to day stuff, with some silly and some serious thrown in there, I have to draw a line somewhere and this is one of those times. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">Part of it is that I’m not entirely sure just what happened… only that it wasn’t fun, and I have a doctor’s appointment next week. Suffice to say that for one whole day I was more or less out of commission, and the next day (yesterday) I was feeling tired and overwhelmed and didn’t seem to have the wherewithal to sit in front of my computer and write about random stuff. </font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">That being said, drawing a line and being all cryptic doesn’t really make good blogger fodder, I know. But for now, at least, this is where I’m at. I hope that’s alright with you.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">I’ve decided that I’m going to push on with this 100 days of blogging, life notwithstanding. Sometimes, things are going to just happen. I might not be able to get to the computer to blog my little heart out. Like this upcoming weekend, for example; I’ve going to be soooooper busy come Friday and Saturday. Saturday is the Virgo Bash where my friend Neya and I are throwing a duo birthday party. Friday I have to bake a ton of stuff for said party, as well as do all of the regular errands and what-not, plus ferry the kidlets from place to place. And then head up to Neya’s for a sleepover because the next day is the party, and we can’t fit all of US plus everything else we need to bring in our one teeny car. I don’t think that on Saturday I’ll be able to get to a computer to blog. I think I’ll be pretty busy.</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">At least on Sunday I’ll have some good pictures and a good story to tell, right?</font></p> <p><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">So that’s pretty much it, for now. Later, gators.</font></p> <p><em><font size="3" face="Comic Sans MS">12 down, 88 to go!</font></em></p> Jennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00925771980070050747noreply@blogger.com3